A man has developed an online forum, looking for advice after his wife threatened divorce if he did not give him a third child.
The young man, 40, explained that he and his 39 -year -old wife had been together for many years and had two children of high school together.
“Children are healthy, happy and high school. My wife has decided that he wants another baby and is willing to divorce -if they refuse,” he said. “I had a vasectomy after the second because we had only two.”
“How can I solve this and save my marriage?”
He revealed that the couple is in couples advice, but it is only an hour every fortnight and they do not reach any progress or agreement outside the sessions.
The father says he suspects that it could be a crisis of half -life for her, as she suddenly moved away from what they had previously agreed.
“When my youngest is secondary in four years, we can withdraw us and live very comfortably without children. We have been working on this plan for 15 years, but now my wife thinks that we can afford another baby and should have one.”
He concludes: “I’m 100% of having children. I love those I have but I’m fine.
“How can I solve this and save my marriage?”
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The readers were torn, with many who said they felt for two father and their desire to follow the original plan.
One user suggested: “Sometimes, when neither of all can agree, just hearing -heard is what can resolve the conflict. Find questions to ask this one and hear this really.
“Find out the exact need is that you will fulfill. Feel your pain with her. You do not agree. Don’t try to find other solutions yet. You may need to regret the end of motherhood. It’s your journey, not yours. Calm -Take it. Listen to it.
“Being 40 years old, retirees and singles does not sound too bad”
Then a mother who went through a similar thing shared her two cents: “I had a very intense desire to have another baby last year with my husband. He also had a vasectomy and in the mid -1940’s. He had no interest in having another and laughed at the beginning.
“I raised it repeatedly because I was still spoiling and did not want to have a repentant. He finally saw how important it was to me and really, really, I appreciated him to feel -and take my desire seriously. So I could leave it.
“Without having entertained the idea of what would seem economically, medically, etc. I couldn’t have left -it was a super strong desire … I guess my hormones told me that it was my last good opportunity or something.”
Another commentator did not diminish his words and told him that he was “fully in his right to say no to another child.”
They added: “Add the layer of need to reverse your vasectomy (which may not work) and find out if your wife is able to have another child because of very few eggs at his age. It is not as if you agree that he is definitely able to happen.”
“In addition, ask, if he is ready to raise another child over the next 18 years. If he is 40 years old and he is another child, he is raised until he is almost 60 years old. There is a large energy difference of 40 to 60.”
A boy then turned him on, replying, “I would say you start finding out what to do after the divorce. Being 40, retired and single, does not sound too bad.”
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